March Reflection: You’re PURE💡🌈 💫

Excerpt: If you're 99.99% space, why does the 0.01% feel so heavy? You are a 1-in-400-trillion miracle of PURE light and potential. Learn to shed the 'weight' of mistakes with our Scale of Truth exercise. At CouplesTherapy.co, Love is Fun! & It’s Okay to Play!

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In February, I gave you a dissertation because I had to learn the Laws of the Universe and all just to present it… no biggie!

So this month, let’s keep it light.

Simply put…

You’re PURE.

What does that mean?
By definition, PURE is that which remains completely itself—unmixed with any other matter, unchanged, and free from external influence or contamination.

And here’s the part we don’t always remember:

The matter that makes you up—the part you can touch, see, and feel—is only a tiny fraction of what you’re actually made of. The 0.0000001%.

The rest? The 99.9999999%? That is space. PURE potential.

In fact, the physics of this is mind-blowing. If you took every single human being on Earth—all 8 billion of us—and removed the empty space inside our atoms, the entire human race would condense into the size of something like a sugar cube.

We think we’re massive, but the "solid" part of us is infinitesimally small.

For the purpose of this discussion, let’s round these numbers to 99.99% and .01% moving forward.

If you zoomed in on a single atom, you’d find a tiny center… like a sugar cube in the middle of a vast, open ocean.

And that space? It isn’t empty.

Its alive. A quantum field that is woven into and throughout everything and everyone in the Universe. Its the connective tissue of the entire universe. Its the "everything" that exists where we think there is "nothing."

So when I say you’re PURE, I mean that most of you—all 7 octillion atoms of you—is that unadulterated PURE energetic potential.

And yet—life can feel so heavy. We can feel heavy. Our thoughts can feel heavy. The mistakes we make can feel the heaviest of all.

Why does life feel heavy… when we’re mostly light?
Why can life feel limiting… when we’re mostly pure potential?
Why can life feel confining… when we’re mostly space?

Maybe it’s because we live identified with that tiny 0.01%—the part of us that is visible, tangible, and separate. The part that says: “This is me, and I am contained and limited to this body.”

Yes, AND that’s only a fraction of the truth…

Because in addition to that tiny percentage is something vast.
Unstuck. Unburdened.

Connected.

★ PURE.
★ Potential.

And honestly? What a relief.

Because maybe the work isn’t to become lighter… maybe its to remember who we already are. To pay the most attention to what’s mostly true: The 99.99% of who we are, as opposed to staying fixated on our .01%.

The chances of you existing at all? 1 in 400 trillion.

Let’s face it, the fact that you’re even here is mathematically IM-possible!

And yet, here you are.

And the FACT OF THE MATTER:
You are made of matter. You do matter.
And between all that matter, you’re PURE.

Potential. More on that to come.

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HOMEWORK: The Self-Intimacy Challenge

THEME: The FACT of your Matter: You’re PURE!

1. Cognitive Reflection (Journaling Exercise)

The Sugar Cube and the Ocean
Sit with the fact that you are PURE. Made of atoms that are 99.9999999% potential. If your nucleus were something like the size of a sugar cube in the middle of an ocean, the rest of the atom (your energy field) would be the miles of deep and vast moving potential surrounding it.

• Journal about the “weight” of that ocean. How does it feel to realize that 99.99% of you is the infinite depth of the sea, and only the tiny sugar cube in the center represents the solid part of you that you mostly identify with?

The Weight of The Mistake
Now, journal about a specific mistake you’ve been carrying around. Describe its density. Its viscosity. Its mass. Its weight.

• Imagine your mistake is a single sugar cube dropped into the vastness of your ocean-sized space. Does it still feel like it has the power to drown out the whole sea of who you are?

• Next, write a letter from your mistake (the sugar cube) to the rest of the ocean. Own it, acknowledge it, recognize the impact, apologize, and ask for forgiveness. Then, write how that’s shifted the weight of your mistake in your mind and body. If you’d like write a response from the ocean to your mistake, the sugar cube, and notice the shift after that.

2. Somatic Exploration (Somatic Intervention)

The Scale of Truth
You’ll need a scale (bathroom or kitchen) and a single sugar cube.

• Step 1: Weigh the sugar cube. Place it on the scale. Notice that number.

• Step 2: Weigh yourself. Step on the scale and write that number down.

• Step 3: Apply the physics. Since your solid matter is only about 0.0000001% of your total composition, multiply your body weight by 0.000000001.

• Compare the two numbers. Which one actually weighs more?

Notice how we often assign more "mass" to a single mistake (the cube) than the entire physical reality of our actual matter. How does it feel to see that your 7 octillion atoms of light carry far more volume than the "matter" of your mistake. Your mistakes do matter… but sometimes its helpful to put their magnitude in the grand scheme of things into perspective and stop beating yourself up if you’re someone who tends to be too hard on yourself. (Note: that doesn’t apply to everyone… some of us could use the application of applying a bit more weight to our mistakes. You get my point!).

3. Bonus: Self-Intimacy Practice (Play)

Shedding the Ounce
Put on Madonna’s Ray of Light.

Dance. Move. Shake. Imagine you are dissolving that extra heavy sugar cube into the ocean of who you are.Allowt your body release the block that’s keeping you stuck.

Self-Intimacy Mantras

★ I am PURE
★ I am PURE Potential
★ I am the ocean, not the sugar cube
★ I am 7 octillion points of potential

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Written by Jessica Hansen, LMFT
Founder & CEO of CouplesTherapy.co

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